We were talking recently about relationships and business. Chris noted the importance of your relationship with your partner and how much it impacts your business success. He often deals with people who act as though a relationship and a business are two elements of your life that can not be developed at the same time, yet in reality can be so powerful when in harmony.

I know plenty of entrepreneurs who if I asked why the run their business, the answer they would give me is for their partner and family. If that’s the case, it’s pretty clear that keeping your relationship full of love and passion is actually good business advice too.

In this article Chris is going to explain briefly how he attended an Anthony Robbins event, resulting in a “dissection” of his relationship with his girlfriend Kahlia in front of 3,000 people in the crowd, which led to them first breaking up, then reuniting and finding a new, deeper connection and sense of love. He will then relate some tools you can use to help foster a holistic approach to your relationships and your business.

Just in time for Valentines day, I now hand you over to Chris…

(Intro by Yaro’s- http://www.entrepreneurs-journey.com/2303/valentines-special-how-to-find-your-business-love-balance/#more-2303)

The Anthony Robbins Intervention

Anthony Robbins called for me to stand; we were at a Date With Destinyevent in front of 3000 other participants. My partner Kahlia had already stood and asked Anthony Robbins for help with our relationship as we were tired from struggling to connect and had considered walking away even though we loved each other deeply. We needed to reignite the excitement and passion between us, to meet each others needs and connect from our hearts. We did not want to feel the hurt and emptiness inside anymore. We just wanted to be “us” again.

We thought we had exhausted all our options so we stood hoping Anthony Robbins could guide us to find the solution to reconnect our relationship.

At this stage in my life I had worked successfully as a Business Coach and was qualified within Neuro Linguistic Programming, Time Line Therapy, Life Coaching & Hypnosis, so I was no intellectual dummy! Mentally we understood what was happening, but emotionally we were confused and hurt.

Within our relationship and regardless of our qualifications and experience, there was something missing for me to fix my relationship “problems”.

At this point in the story any woman would say I was thinking like a true guy -”trying to ‘fix’ the relationship problem“. And yes I admit back then I was making one of the standard male mistakes of trying to “fix” instead of connecting and creating an environment to allow Kahlia to trust me and go deeper into her soul.

But at this stage as with many I had not learned and applied the foundational keys of a loving passionate relationship.

What unfolded at this event was one of the biggest learning curves of my life, instead of walking out arm in arm passionately looking into each others eyes. We BROKE UP!

Yes that’s right after 3 hours in front of 3000 people with Anthony Robbins we broke up…???

But luckily I had finally found my limit, and I was guided there thanks to Anthony Robbins and the 3000+ awesome people at that event that day.

This was just the beginning of our journey. From that moment I knew that I had to find out the answer, I needed to understand how to create a passionate relationship. I had to understand how to meet her needs and my own and do it from a centered, masculine healthy place.

Just as I learned to educate myself within business to increase my success I also had to understand relationships to live the exciting passionate loving relationship I desired.

From here we submersed ourselves in the study and understanding of creating a real relationship that would last the distance and is sustained with the feeling of true Love & Passion.

Let’s be honest, relationships are one of the most emotional areas in our life and can truly make us feel we are floating on heavenly clouds or bring us to our knees in pain.

Kahlia and I broke up at Date With Destiny, and from our journey we now share an intimate, open, sensual and passionate connection in our relationship, that grows deeper and stronger every day. We are expecting our child in May this Year.

We are so grateful to share that we have a passionate polarity and energy that we had never experienced prior to this journey. Only through the discovery of some key relationship tools, never giving up and not being afraid to put our hand up and ask for help have we made it this far.

Every area of our life has increased from this deeper connection. Our life is juiced from the passion we share together.

If you can relate to not living your relationship at the level you and your partner deserve, there is a solution and we would like to share some of our journey and the tools we learned to create a Passionate Loving Relationship.

Passion In Your Business

Have you ever felt the passion that you get when you are winning in business or starting a new (ad)venture?

The deep stirring and excitement that comes from the endless possibilities…

We’ll now that you can measure passion in your life I want to ask you, have you ever felt this passion within your relationship? Have you felt this passion lately?

Many entrepreneurs think they can only have one focus while achieving their success; it’s either the relationship or business.

But what would you say if I told you it’s possible to have even more inspirational juice to build a business when balanced with a healthy passionate relationship.

If you already have a relationship and perhaps even work with your partner within your business, how would you like to renew and retain the passion while still achieving success in business?

Imagine that… You achieve all your financial goals and also share it with your partner in a deep and fulfilling relationship.

Now I know what you may be thinking, because many years ago I thought the same thing…

“I can sort my relationship when we are successful and have made the money we want”

OR

“It’s ok we are nearly at our goal. Than we’ll go on a romantic holiday and sort that out, I can still fix it later”.

Unfortunately the reality is that someday may never come, and regardless if you achieve the business success you will sadly find at the end of that journey you are often either no longer in a relationship, or the passion is so dull that once the distraction of the business is removed, the relationship end is only a matter of time.

You have heard the cliché that money is not everything and love is the most important thing, so I am not going to bore you with what you already know.

The simple fact is you may be focused on financial/business success right now and you feel this is required in order to be in a mindset to focus the time to realize success.

I am not going to speak further about the success time frame of business because this is not what this article is about. We are here to talk about yourRelationship success while still achieving your business goals – We wantHolistic Success.

This is for you if you are in a relationship or if you would like to attract one while still putting in the required time and focus to reach your business goals.

Business Love Balance

We are going to term this the “Business Love Balance” which also happens to be the name of the program we designed to achieve the passionate connection in your relationship, filling your life with depth and love giving you a life of holistic success… The Ultimate Success!

Just as there is a structure to follow to achieve in business more efficiently there is also a structure and tools that can be applied to create the passionate polarity in your relationship, whether you are already in a relationship or would like to attract one; And no matter what stage your relationship is at. It’s never too late to reignite with the right fuel.

Within the Business Love Balance program I teach, I provide members with step-by-step tools to help create the structure to allow you to ignite and retain the passion between you and your partner. One of the tools is “Love Communication” – This one resource alone if applied will make a massive difference to your relationship.

‘Love Communication’ is understanding how your partner receives love best for THEM and communicating to them in this way.

Whether it is to deepen a moment, create understanding and rapport when resolving an argument, or if you are in business together, you can make your partner feel love and connection while working.

In this article I want to briefly share some of the basics of ‘Love Communication’ to help you get started in connecting and deepening your relationship.

There are four main ways a person likes to receive love, these are called sub modalities and they are:

1. Kinaesthetic
2. Auditory
3. Visual
4. Auditory Digital

These are the basics of ‘Love Communication’ – and these love strategies are an important place to start if you want to connect with your partner.

We all like differing variation of these to receive love, but one will often be a primary.

The other important note is we ALL use these preferred communications methods in many areas of our lives e.g communicating with work colleagues, connecting to our children or taking in new information.

The key is to know first what your own Love Strategy is and secondary how your partner likes to receive love.

To understand these and recognize them we need to know how they might appear in some basic examples; some one who is primarily Kinaestheticwould like affection and often be touching, hugging and kissing their partner or wanting to express their feelings. They are the “touchy feely” ones and can bring a lot of connection to the relationship. They feel and express love when touched and being close.

A person who is Auditory will like to receive love through words, they like to hear you say it and express to them by speaking. You may find this also generally leads into the bedroom if while making love you tell them how you are feeling and what you are going to do to them  Perhaps read up on some naughty romantic literature if you are out of practice.

Visual people receive love through what they see, it can be the effort you put into your appearance, the incredible looking roses you present to them or even cleaning the home so they can SEE the effort you have put in for them. So as you can imagine they love what they can see.

Finally Auditory Digital, these people receive love often by processing their feeling, which as you can imagine can be contradictory to the general definition of love.

People who are primarily Auditory Digital can struggle to express themselves and open up to depth within their relationship. These people benefit from practicing the other strategies where congruent in order to truly deepen the connection.

Remember we all use differing variation of these strategies within our life and with our love communication and we can practice deepening and connecting using other strategies at times.

Now the key to ‘Love Communication’ and connecting with your partner is to understand not only what your own strategy is, but also importantly what your partner’s is. You will often find one of the main reasons couples lose connection is that they try giving love to their partner using the strategies they prefer receiving themselves.

Now an example of how this can create a problem; imagine a partner is Visual and the other primarily Kinaesthetic.

The Kinaesthetic partner always wants to connect with their partner affectionately through touching, kissing, and sharing regularly to feel & express love.

Now the visual partner prefers primarily to see the love, sure they like to touch and hug but generally different amounts makes them comfortable and creates connection specifically at certain moments. So when they are trying to communicate something they feel is important they will naturally use a lot ofvisual stimulation and require you to look and focus into their eyes compared to what they feel would be distracting, such as excessive touching at this time. They want to see you acknowledge what they are saying to you or showing you.

The key to this example and all other love communication is to understand what your partner prefers for communication and build rapport connecting with them with their love strategy.

Often simply understanding and applying this strategy alone will allow you to resolve arguments quickly, turning them into exciting moments. As well as connecting more with your partner and deepening during sex.

The Importance of Communication

A lack of communication or misunderstanding through your communication is the major reason a relationship fails.

Relationships do not end from a lack of Love but a lack of Passion.

Passion is created through polarity and deepening connection from the quality of the communication.

Can you imagine for a moment how this could help your relationship or if you are looking for one, allows you to connect with someone early on in the dating stages?

Now within the working environment, when a couple is in business together, communication is a very powerful tool to be productive in business, yet still make your partner feel appreciated and feel loved…

And of course it is a definite requirement to re-connect passion after a day of business together, changing the mood and at times the roles to realign your love and romance, creating a balanced life.

Just like all resources for success, a strategy is only useful if actually applied. This is one of the main reasons for the creation of ‘Business Love Balance’ – it provides accountability and continued growth to commit you to deepen your relationship, creating a deeply fulfilling life. Something we all deserve.

Learn more about how the Business Love Balance program guides you to meet your partner’s needs and stay accountable to create romance and passion, which leads to the truly magic moments of your life.